The Small Things ARE the Sacred Things
On returning to center without a protocol
Hello, my beautiful friend,
A quiet lie tends to circulate in spiritual spaces…
I used to believe… and I think a lot of us do… that spirituality was supposed to eventually make the hard days stop. That if I just went deep enough, cleared enough, grew enough... I'd reach a place where irritability, heaviness, and the weight of unnamed things simply wouldn’t visit anymore.
I believed that lie, and I’ve flogged myself with it more times than I care to count.
Here’s what I know to be true instead…
Spirituality was never meant to be a cloak of invulnerability. It was never meant to lift us so far above our humanity that we no longer feel the weather of it. We chose these bodies, these lives, these beautifully complicated human interactions, because there is something here… both marvelous and maddening… that the soul came to experience.
The hard days are not evidence that we’ve lost the thread.
They are evidence that we are alive. Fully, feelingly, gloriously alive.
The question was never how do I stop having hard days? The question that actually matters is gentler than that, and more honest...
What does my soul need today to find its way back?
I used to think returning to center required effort. Discipline. A practice with steps, sequence, and something to show for it afterward. The wellness world is very good at selling that version… the protocol, the routine, the non-negotiable morning ritual that successful, “spiritually evolved people never miss.”
But here’s what actually returns me to mySelf, in this season of my life…
Some mornings, it’s my Ravenclaw mug filled with something warm, taken outside while the birds are doing their thing. No agenda. Just early morning light, and whatever the birds have decided to say about it. DW beside me as well as our pups, and the simple animal pleasure of warmth in my hands while the world goes about its unhurried business without requiring anything from me.
While other mornings it’s indoors, lapdesk across my knees, journal open, purple fountain pen in hand. A conversation with Spirit that begins without a topic and finds one on its own. These are the mornings when I’m not seeking center so much as I’m letting center find me, through the movement of the pen across the page.
Some days it’s rain watched from under the awning, a scented candle burning, and incense threading slowly upward through the air. The particular comfort of being dry and warm while the world outside cleanses itself.
And other days… more than I once would have admitted… it’s something as simple as a warm, slow shower with nothing more required.
Diamond Art in the sunshine while an audiobook or music does something quiet to my nervous system. Laughing with DW over something small. A moment in my chair outside, the morning still soft around me, feeling into what it means to be sovereign in my own life... in my own skin... in my own ordinary, sacred, enough-as-it-is morning.
None of these is impressive. Not one of them would make a compelling Instagram reel.
And yet… every single one of them works… for me.
Here’s what I’ve learned about returning to center, after years of trying to do it in the way that Mira, my Protective Self, would deem as “correct” or “right and proper.”
It isn’t a practice you execute. It’s a listening you practice, and the difference is absolutely everything.
Some mornings, your spirit knows exactly what it needs and will tell you if you’re quiet enough to hear it. Some mornings it’s your body that knows first… the pull toward warmth, toward stillness, toward the birds, toward the pen. Some mornings even the Protective Self gets a vote, and that’s alright too.
The Protective Self… the ego… that wants the Ravenclaw mug, the back porch, and twenty minutes of doing absolutely nothing useful... that self is not your enemy. That self is exhausted and asking, in the only language it has, for a little grace.
Give it the grace.
The sacred has never required a protocol. It has only ever required your presence… soft, unhurried, willing to notice what’s actually here rather than what you think should be here.
The small things are the sacred things. They always have been. We just keep forgetting, and then remembering again, which is perhaps the most human spiritual practice of all.
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The door is open, my beautiful friend. Come as you are.
With steady flame,❤️🔥
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